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The message is simple, but powerful. And truly effective when engaging your children by being "calm and connected." There are many valuable takeaways from this audiobook. I have so far listened to it twice, and I have changed my interactions with my kids. I recommend this book for any parent searching for ways to decrease drama and increase peace.
I liked how personable he sounded as he read his work. It was like listening to a friend talk and offer very valuable advice.
Patterns are just patterns ... and you can change the pattern. If you change it, then everyone else engaged in the pattern will have change, too.
Staying calm and focusing on myself has changed how I parent and has also given me a new overall perspective.
This book got better in the later chapters when there was practical tips for how to set limits, but "scream free" is disingenuous, because there will still be plenty of screaming on your kids side of the coin. Overall I thought there were points that were helpful, but was often annoyed by the author/narrator, and felt like the first third of the book was just a waste of time that kept getting me upset. I didn't need to be convinced, I needed to get to the meat of the book. What was missing completely was an honest dialogue about kids putting themselves in true danger and how to deal with when they don't listen and preventing them from doing things that could cause them permanent physical harm (like running out into the street or playing with the stove, undoing the latch on a swimming pool when they've been told to stay away, climbing to shelves and cupboards high up where dangerous items are stored). I'm not trying to "force my will" on my kids at these junctures, simply trying to keep them and other family members alive. When your kid refuses to listen to reason and still runs away from you and into the street - yes there will be consequences (like not being allowed go out anymore), but in that instant, I need to do what I need to do to get the 4 year olds attention and hope/pray he doesn't get himself killed. Runkel never addresses those tough issues, and quite frankly, I'm still looking for answers on that one.
I have a background in education, and have also spent time reading and researching a number or parenting philosophies. The truth is, most of the successful and lasting parenting books teach many of the same principles. Scream Free Parenting keeps with many of the most best practices and drives home what I've said for years. It's about the parent, and how we must deal with ourselves. The presentation is good, easy to hear. Along with Covey, Leman, and the Love & Logic programs, this should be at the top any parents reading list.
I think a lot of self help books are reminders of things we may already know inheritantly. This is no exception. It gently reminds us of the ways we can better deal with our children and provides good insights into why this works. I will continue to listen to it until I can make all the author's suggestions habits because I can already see improvements.
While this book had some great insight I forced my self to finish listening to it. The author read in a monotonous tone, making the stories painstakingly boring.
there were so many of his stories or his clients stories and how one can relate , that I found myself daydreaming. if there were any instructions on how to be scream free, i can't tell you what they are b/c I was in Lala land. so boring that I refuse to listen to it again or I will be SCREAMING !!!!!
I didn't particularly like Chapters 2-7. I need to be told only so many times that not screaming at my kids and focusing instead on myself is what I need to do. I did, however, get a lot out of the remaining chapters in the book, such as allowing natural consequences to be the child's punishment for poor choices (the Love & Logic concept), allowing children to have their space, keeping promises, and taking care of yourself first so you can bring your best self to your relationships. I agree that he didn't lay out step by step what actions to take to put the principles into practice, but I personally didn't find that necessary. Definitely a worthwhile listen.
Good insights, funny and sensible stories. No promises, just plain reality. Shows a clear path to be a better parent.
And his voice is wonderful.
I came away not understanding what his point was in writing this book. Nothing he said was new to me. It is all very commonsensical. That would be ok if he'd actually finished each chapter with some practical tools for parents. Here's the concept, now here's how to put it into practice with your own children. Lazy! Don't waste your money.
OK if you have a difficult kid of any age, a drama king or queen adolescent that is just slightly or totally out of control then this IS the book you need!!! It teaches some new concepts I will not lie but you will be surprised at just how well they work. On my honor if you use what is in this book you can and will become a stress free, scream free, totally relaxed and cooooooool parent!!!!! This makes parenting oh so easy and fun too!