This book has improved our 27 years of bad communication. We aren't great at it, but can identify issues sooner. You will get what you put in. We were lucky to have a weekend workshop using the books conversations
This book will save your relationship, or prevent it from ever going critical. Everyone should take it in!
This and others together help you understand common pitfalls and communcation faults which are really a big part of relationship troubles. Do listen and get what you can from this and the other common self relationship help books. They all add up to informing you and enlighting you and can help. Go for it.
I bought this book YEARS ago, and never actually read it until now. When I started it I obviously wasn't in a place to hear it. After being married for some time, it hits home. This book along with What makes love last are two of the best relationship books on the market. If you are willing to put in the work, it will save your marriage.
Which book is better? I say buy both! If you can't and you can only buy one - look at your problems.
If you are getting stuck on the same arguements over and over, or there has been an affair, or you feel like you are going to try to do it on your own - I suggest What makes love last.
If you have decent communication, and you want a better relationship - this book is worth the buy.
Both are great books - and you wont be disappointing with either. There is a reason that both books are highly recommended by MFT (marriage family therapist) all over the world - worth the buy.
Me - it has helped my marriage
All of it.
Relationships are not always perfect - with work they can be better.
I've honestly learned so much from this. Thank you. Learning that when my girlfriend lashed out at me and said she thought we'd never work, she was actually reaching out for a clear secure attachment confirmation. aka, genuine loving affection, words and touch. hugs go a long way. also seeing where I Stoke the fire myself by saying the wrong things at this time or saying nothing at all. if I react correctly the situation changes dramatical. seeing her coming from a place of vulnerable longing for secure attachment makes it much easier to hear the angry tone and know that's just the fear of the unknown tone.
Brilliant. This book really hits the bulls eye about the core issue underlying the confusing, usually irrational and complex landscape of love relationships. The conversations provided excellent example of how couples can get past the "he said she said" quibbles that can deeply wound each other, and delve into real emotional honesty. I look forward to working on these conversations with my husband. The grand finale was profoundly inspiring.
I liked the way the reader could portray a man's voice as well as a woman's voice, helping the listener follow who was saying what.
In summary, I wish every couple could read this book. I really do believe it could bring a great deal more peace to the world.
I really felt identified with this book. Some of the stories reflected my own. Great insight for those who are seeking help with broken relationships.
I am a very capable 61 yr old husband who feels and sees how my wife, my kids, friends, fail to see what they miss in life if they refuse to see their need for total closeness
It was so good to have someone read my mind and heart
I'm and audible learner and her presentation I think made me feel the authors intent.
In an extended sitting, but I did listen to it twice back to back and will again. I ordered hard copies for my wife and kids
God said it is not good for man to be alone. . We do best when we are vulnurable enough to either be accepted or denied. If you want to really be loved you have to let people in.