I got sick of this book before it was over. Near the beginning, the author explains the foundations for the kind of therapy she conducts. I found it helpful to consider that adults need reliable emotional attachment as much as children do. But once we got past the conceptual grounding, I lost interest.
I think if you need couple's therapy, then you should probably seek out a practitioner. This book might be helpful in deciding whether you'd like to try Dr. Johnson's approach. I don't think the book is a replacement for the keen listening and the feedback a real life therapist would provide.
One thing I found kind of annoying with the reading is that there are conversations between a LOT of couples. Having the narrator do men's and women's voices so often got repetitive. (The men all sounded a little like John Wayne.) I suppose it makes an audio book too expensive to produce, but I think in this situation, it would be better to hire actors to read the actual dialogues.
So far this has been the most informative read to date on the subject of attachment theory...
Accept...it also deals with attachment theory/stiles.
Demon dialogue is a bad habit to get in but can be turned into productive secure communication if the hard work is done.
I was referred to this book by a clinical psychologist who deals in relationship issues among other things.
It can not only cement the best of relationships but could also save the most tenuous and damaged of partnerships.
Easy to listen to and understand, if your relationships are important to you then you need this book. We all need this book!
I now give it to people as an engagement gift.
I haven't read the book only listened. Think it would be just as valuable to read it.
It is my first.
Learn to forgive myself and others. We are all only human.
I want to reread this book and probably read it again.
I wish it could be required reading in schools.
...because it does a wonderful job of demystifying relationship conflict and providing simple steps to overcoming even long-standing intimacy issues. It centers on attachment styles, and it supports people who believe that we are better off IN relationships and provides evidence to debunk the importance of independence, as opposed to interdependence. If you are pessimistic about your relationship, this book could motivate you to try to heal it differently.
My girlfriend and I have been seeing a counselor who recommended we read this book. I do enjoy books and read this one with an open mind but must say it was one of the worst books I have ever read/listeneded to. The author is a bit bias towards women and puts too much emphasis on providing examples of relationship disputes without much insight. It was painful to finish. I would not recommend this one.
I bought this book YEARS ago, and never actually read it until now. When I started it I obviously wasn't in a place to hear it. After being married for some time, it hits home. This book along with What makes love last are two of the best relationship books on the market. If you are willing to put in the work, it will save your marriage.
Which book is better? I say buy both! If you can't and you can only buy one - look at your problems.
If you are getting stuck on the same arguements over and over, or there has been an affair, or you feel like you are going to try to do it on your own - I suggest What makes love last.
If you have decent communication, and you want a better relationship - this book is worth the buy.
Both are great books - and you wont be disappointing with either. There is a reason that both books are highly recommended by MFT (marriage family therapist) all over the world - worth the buy.
Me - it has helped my marriage
All of it.
Relationships are not always perfect - with work they can be better.
yes again and again
Love without hurt
the value of connection as the basis of good foundations and resilience
Unless you like test results in a statistical format, this book has got to be one of the most boring books I have ever heard or read. Tried to get past the first hour or so but couldn't follow what writer was trying to portray.