When I drive, I read... uhm listen. I like SciFi, Fantasy, some Detective and Espionage novels and Religion. Now and then I will also listen to something else.
Think of yourself as an auto-mobile with a tank running on love instead of on petrol. However love is not a liquid but is communicated through five different 'languages.' These languages are more modes of interaction than actual languages. Gary Chapman says that every person 'speaks' one of the big five, be it words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service or physical touch.
In this book Chapman discusses the five love languages and how it can help married couples to have a better and more genuine marriage. While this approach to marriage might sound very simple, the only thing simple about it is the concept of love as different 'languages.' Chapman makes it very clear that a happy marriage needs work from both partners.
By redefining love as an 'act' instead of a 'feeling' Chapman challenges listeners to identify their own love language as well as that of their spouse. Furthermore you are challenged to learn your partners language thus ensuring that their 'love' tank remains full.
I liked the simplified way in which Chapman presented these concepts. He has definitely given couples a simple tool of addressing issues in the marriage effectively. Yet the love languages seem to work better when it is used pro-actively. It keeps a lot of promise and I am eager to try it out in my marriage.
While Dr. Chapman reads the book himself, I would have loved someone with a more neutral accent. Dr. Chapman sounds as if he has a thick American Southern accent. (I could be wrong.) It almost put me of from buying the book. When you listen past the accent, you realise the tremendous worth of this book.
I heartily recommend this book to anyone who wants a simple uncomplicated way to deal with the 'wear and tear' of marriage. Included with the book is a .pdf questionnaire that will help you and your spouse to discover his or her love language. I do believe that this book could help save quite a few marriages and comes highly recommended.
Say something about yourself!
This is the book your looking for. It is very insightful without being boring. I even got my spouse to listen to this one.
This books helps you learn to deal with everyone in life by explaining 5 easy concepts on how others need to feel loved. Not everyone can be loved the same and what makes you feel loved may not be what others need to feel loved. That everyone in your life, family, friends, kids, co-workers fits in to one of the 5 concepts. I understand now where I went wrong in failed relationships and how others failed me. This book is a must for those getting married if they want to be able to learn how to truly make those in your life feel the love you have to offer.
Very easy to follow and stay actively interested in this book. Dr. Chapman uses real couples and their issues as examples which put the concepts into real life form to use and understand.
Falling into infatuation is the easy part, turning it into the kind of love that lasts....Learn how to make those around you feel valued, loved, appreciated, and wanted.
You know how sometimes after someone mentions something, you're like, "oh yeah, i didn't realize that!" ... I feel that this is what Gary is letting us know. We all know but don't know how to pinpoint how we want to be loved. Gary gives examples and ideas of how we all want to be loved in different ways. What we think we want to be loved, is not always what others what to be loved. It's such common sense, but Gary puts it in a perspective that is not condescending and his reading voice is enjoyable.
I really recommend this audiobook for just a good way to know how your loved ones like to be treated. I will be getting the one about kids soon.
Audio version comparable to print version
No characters/ self help book
Finding which language is important to the other person in the relationship, in any relationship really.
I enjoyed hearing the author read the book, but i am sure it would read well too, especially since it is non-fiction.
The author himself shared his emotional and thought processes
I enjoyed all the anecdotes about couples that he shared- very helpful millustrations
Even though I am a professional therapist, I appreciated the way Dr. Chapman made psychological insight accessible to everyone.
A very helpful book for anyone in any kind of relationship, and lots of supplemental material is available too....
In terms of importance of the message, The Five Love Languages ranks among my top five audiobooks. In addition it was very well narrated by the author, so in all respects a very good audiobook. I can recommend it to everyone old enough to think about relationships :-)
One of the cases in the book is of a married couple who had been married for many years in the form of just living together, but this couple were still able to pick things up and revitalize their marriage. A very encouraging case!
Best book on relationships you can read.
Knowing your own language and learning that of your loved ones is essential.
Just finished this audio book!! Wow!! Amazingly important information!!
To look back on a failed marriage (of a 12 year "love" relationship) and know that you can't even guess your ex's primary love language (or even their top two)... Makes it quite clear why there was rejection, anger, infidelity, and a loss of love on the spouse's part...
Never again... I am armed with knowledge... Even though I was loving, kind and a caring husband... My love wasn't offered in HER LANGUAGE, but instead in mine... In those languages that I gave/offered because they were that which I looked to receive from her... But wasn't... She didn't know how much positive words meant to me - nor how negatively they affected my mind and heart when her words were negative and non-affirming...
She had no clue how much it hurt me to sit on the couch and not be able to touch her... Because she was "busy" on her laptop and watching the latest episode of her favorite tv show... This was NOT quality time for me nor an opportunity for physical touch... My top three love languages are words of affirmation (12), physical touch (8) and quality time (7). Maybe it was acts of service that she desired... Guess we'll never know, but I can rest assured in knowing that my next love will feel loved because I will be sure to know her language - from early on!!!
Highly recommend this book!! To the married, dating or even a teen looking at dating for the first time (seriously)...
To the divorced, if you (like me) married for a lifetime, but found yourself lacking for love... Fix it now... So you are better prepared to love #2 for a lifetime...
We are all different people. Our love-tanks are filled by different means. The languages we speak are our own... I know my language now...
And I am going to find out the love language of everyone that I love... So I can better love them... From here on.
Anyone who feels their relationships could use some fire (the good kind) should get this book. I know many couples who want a better relationship, but have no idea where to start. This book gives real-world practical advice from a genuine expert. Once you've identified your language and your spouse's language, the fun begins. My wife and I have been together a long time and we've always considered our relationship to be in pretty good shape. After listening to this book we have taken it to a whole new level. Understanding each other and ourselves have led to subtle but impactful changes in the way we interact.
Gary Chapman delivers and honest performance of material that obviously rings true for him and his clients. His stories and illustrations are good and his easy style makes the time go by quickly. If nothing else, you will learn things about yourself and that's rarely a bad thing. What do you have to lose?
I enjoyed the topic and I felt like the information was relevant and useful.
I am single so it really gave me a way to look at my relationships in a give and take kind of way.