If I were a devout Mormon woman, I would be seething over this book. However, I am not a Mormon and still feel quite upset with the way this author takes her "dirty laundry" out for the whole world to read. She implies that the Mormon church is the one that made her father (supposedly) abuse her. I can't think of any religion that has a perfect history. This lady takes things too far. She is sarcastic and is constantly reminding the listener that she has a Ph.D., as though this legitimizes her claims. I feel sorry for her family. She does the craziest things (like chopping down trees in the middle of the night), while her husband and small children are neglected. If Mormon men were so horrible, why did her own Mormon husband put up with her antics? I wanted to listen to this book before visiting Utah to learn something about the "Saints." Instead of siding with her, I think I actually disagree with her. Who knew? Her 9O yr. old father shouldn't have had to put up with all her accusations at that age. It sounds almost evil of her. Her diatribe pleads with the listener that abuse victims should be open about their history, even if it took place decades ago. As the daughter of an abused mother, I wish she never had told me what happened to her in her youth. It never helped me, it only made me angry, and it didn't help my mom either. She grew more depressed in her older years by reminiscing about her horrible childhood. Get the therapy and then REALLY forget about it, I say! Don't live in the past, Martha!! Live, let live and enjoy what you have in the moment.
This book is a pitiful attempt by a disgruntled ex-mormon to place the blame for her own shortcomings on her religious upbringing. It is nothing more than sideways slap at the Mormons. Don't waste good reading time on this book.
I'm not sure why I listened all the way through this mess of a book. It is full of new age woo, and Martha is no more reasonable (and probably less trustworthy) than your average Mormon who thinks that Joseph had the Book of Mormon translated directly from gods gold plates. I highly doubt that Martha was abused by her father no matter how much she "believes". This book is about 95% Martha's self obsessed drivel and about 5% interesting info about the Mormons and her Mormon life. Pass, and save yourself hours of your life and a few bucks to boot.
Because it deals with faith transitions and truths within the LDS faith
I laughed when her husband was leaving the church and the stake president said that all his power, priesthood and blessings were being taken away--however--you can still pay your tithing and receive those blessings--also her findings on incest within the Provo area and her research outside of Happy Valley
Nothing--would have loved it if Martha read it herself
yes--In fact couldn't stop--listened at home on my Echo as well
Highly recommend..best book I have read and listened to in the last six months. Beautifully written and forthright
This woman's courage. Dedication to the truth.
Her ability to confront an inconvenient truth.
Many spooky moments.
Hard for me to confront the people that left reviews here, volunteering to add to her burdens. Every time we knock a woman in the dirt, we all die a little. Some folk are ruthless and even offended by a woman's honest story, this is very spooky.
This was such an amazing story. It spoke to me and was very healing! Loved it and I admire her courage. Thank you for having a voice for those who haven't found theirs yet!
Too many parts to limit it down to only one being the best. I found this to be very eye opening, interesting and 'attention keeping'. Having come from the religion in my childhood made it even more intriguing and it actually brought comfort to me to learn the things I questioned were not on my own observations.
This was a great read/listen to add to my goal on becoming educated on many spectrums of many different religious beliefs. In no way do my high reviews make a statement of judgement who have chose this particular religion as their true path the happiness. Live and let live. But also be open minded and respectful of all diversity.
The author's openness about her life story and the sweet tenderness the author expresses toward her family, including her father.
The dialogue with her father when she tries to understand him and find a way to connect with him by using Shakespeare, among others.
Yes, quite a shock to be brought back to some of my own reactions when I realized what my memories meant over 30 years ago. I've lived with the understanding for decades, but was surprised at how powerfully the feelings could still be triggered.
I disagree with the reviewers who state that she was harsh and cruel with Mormons and her family. My impression from reading the book is that she deeply loves and appreciates Mormons and her family and was especially kind and loving with her father, in spite of great trauma inflicted by him. She appears to have worked to understand where he came from so that she could relate with him as intimately as he would allow. Confronting a 90-year old man is not necessarily cruel depending on how it is done. It had the potential to set him free and that seemed to be her motivation, in addition to wanting a healed relationship with him.I've worked with many survivors of childhood sexual abuse. Many find that it is not healthy for them to continue in relationship with their abuser if that person refuses to acknowledge the truth. It is a sad but sometimes necessary split.
I had to get this book just to see for myself; Ms Beck accuses her father of the most vial and evil things a man could do to his child. I had to investigate her story.
In her initial chapter, she writes several times of her total confusion, total doubt and totally not knowing the truth and then tries to convince the world of the truth in her words. Who in their right mind would follow a woman who admittedly lied about her faith and trust in God over and over, and in the same breath repeatedly admits she can?t separate truth from fiction? She's not credible.
I listened to her story only because of who she was in the LDS community. Forget that she's lost her pathway in the Church and that someday, when truth matters, rather than her popularity and money, the forgiveness of the earthly father, whom she so evilly abused with these lies and accusations may be important enough for her to finally tell the real story.
You'll find some truth about the Mormons mixed with these stories but it is all twisted up with her story-telling so don't take anything to the bank on Mormons.
Since she's published her book, her ENTIRE family has publically stated that her story is total fiction. Which is where I'd have to put my trust.
Some of her stories are "funny" but when you measure them up against the harm she did to her family and most of all her father, in his final years, it's only sad story. My hat's off to her family for keeping the cork on this bottle until now, but given what she's done to dear old dad ... each of them had better look out too.
Leaving the Saints is a PERSONAL account of the author's experiences. It doesn't attempt to give the reader a comprehensive view of the LDS religion or people. As a personal memoir, it is funny and insightful. I grew up among the "Saints" in Utah and Beck's insights are consistent with my experiences. Many of those criticizing the book have obviously not read it. I recommend you read this book before you condemn it, and certainly before you write a public review of it.