When I was listening to this book (the third version of it) a teen age boy who was near me said this is a women's manual of how to defeat men. I look at it more as a manual of how to conduct one's life. This is a great manual for managers and executives. My first ready was at the direction of an executive. Here you will learn how to change your thinking into a winning thinking model.
This is three of her books in one and will save you some dough.
I know people that follow Pema Chodron’s book like some people follow the bible. However, I don’t think they've ever heard her talk. In the first book (talk) she talks about recent to the events before the events of this talk like weeks before she talks about losing her mind with her granddaughter. She talks about how monks that are suppose to be these people in complete harmony with the world around them really aren't. She talks about learning to deal with this and why its hard even for the Buddhist masters. In the second book she talks about compassion for everyone. She goes into depth concerning tonglen meditation. Which I've tried and it’s very hard at first. It’s very powerful once you get the hang of it. It’s about changing our relationship with pain and pleasure. Why run from pain? Why embrace pleasure? What is the real difference? I learned that the difference between pain and pleasure is perception. And it’s not easy to see it. I learned in the third book that doing tonglen meditation is very helpful.
I’ve read over a 100 books regarding spirituality including several versions of the bible and the ‘Dead Sea Scroll’. Here is a summary of all these books into one place. This book can seem very heavy for those who haven’t read any other books or are willing to look at themselves. I recently left my job and when asked why I simply said that spirit was guiding me. I then spent three months going through a lot of trials. In the end I ended up with a new job where I was truly happy and the lessons have served me beyond words. I learned to see the path I was meant to be on including have compassion to others while understanding that we can’t know the real reason of others suffering!
I do disagree with the author on the statement that scientist have proven that while is all colors and black is the absence of all colors. My Native American teacher told me to take all the colors of the rainbow and mix them together and I got black. No matter how you try this test with colors you always end up with black. You can ask any 1st grader this as they’ve learned it.
With this in mind I will still recommend this book to people to read as I learned new information here I can apply.