When I was listening to this book (the third version of it) a teen age boy who was near me said this is a women's manual of how to defeat men. I look at it more as a manual of how to conduct one's life. This is a great manual for managers and executives. My first ready was at the direction of an executive. Here you will learn how to change your thinking into a winning thinking model.
This is three of her books in one and will save you some dough.
I know people that follow Pema Chodron’s book like some people follow the bible. However, I don’t think they've ever heard her talk. In the first book (talk) she talks about recent to the events before the events of this talk like weeks before she talks about losing her mind with her granddaughter. She talks about how monks that are suppose to be these people in complete harmony with the world around them really aren't. She talks about learning to deal with this and why its hard even for the Buddhist masters. In the second book she talks about compassion for everyone. She goes into depth concerning tonglen meditation. Which I've tried and it’s very hard at first. It’s very powerful once you get the hang of it. It’s about changing our relationship with pain and pleasure. Why run from pain? Why embrace pleasure? What is the real difference? I learned that the difference between pain and pleasure is perception. And it’s not easy to see it. I learned in the third book that doing tonglen meditation is very helpful.
I’ve seen this book many times in various books stores, yet I had no interest in it. Then one day I was lead to it and bought it. I found the information quite useful at this point (2014) in my life. I’m going through a period of looking at how I’ve been conducting myself and the direction my life has been going. I found the techniques here and on the website after taking the EQ test very useful in my growth. I found ways to stop sniping at people and ways to work through issues with people. I’m finding the book very useful and condensed many other books I’ve read into one easy reference material. I have this in paper form as well as digital and I hand it out to people to read now. I recommend it to anyone looking to change or enhance their relationship skills.