This is book is what I've needed in my life, more than any other. Listening to the authors read it made me realize I've been starving for good food for a long, long time. I have never allowed beautiful women to love me, even tho they have tried over and over. My parents were at times very critical of me, and I didn't understand why, other than to believe I wasn't good enough to be loved by anyone. The world was at times very critical of me, for being a man, a white man, a college graduate, a physics graduate, an ethical man, an unemployed man, an old man, a fat man, a man with PTSD from my military service. I felt no one could possibly love me. And, I struck back. I hated others for having so little understanding and kindness in their intelligence. I needed to read this book to put the pieces of my life together.
This book is accurate and true, and very helpful in understanding men and women and how their differences make them unique and precious. I also found that it described differences in the two current political parties, whose character resembles the differences between the way men and women think. Let's all read this book, and learn how to understand and get along with each other.
Married over 30 years, my wife and I found this book very meaningful and helpful. It is good reading for all couples. I found the Martian-Venusian translations amusing and true, and I hope I can apply some of the author's wisdom in my own life.
Say something about yourself!
Always leary, am I, when non-clinicians start openly penning generalized advice (beyond dealing with biscuits that won't rise or resistant scuff marks) to people with problems that could be potentially serious or life-threatening--we don't need to look very far to see the inherent problems with such an approach. But after listening, I report that Miss Sugar is wise enough to always advise some medicine with her spoonful of sugar, and for the most part, in her essay-esque responses, directs her sweet peas toward professional counsel/support if needed. Miss Sugar is indeed wise, as well as compassionate and poetic. (*Strayed does have life-experience, obvious in her book Wild.)
This is an interesting mix -- author/advice columnist, novel/inspirational stories -- but just plugging it in and listening doesn't do it justice. In large doses the stream of advice-hidden-in-a-story becomes repetitive and more about the writer and creative writing than the problem. And with so many prose-filled personal stories, you begin to feel like this columnist not only yearns for the life of a novelist (funny thing), but also lived a life manufactured specifically for recalling and expending advice, which sometimes translates as too convenient, and unbelievable. [Imagine the hint-rich Heloise advising you.."I know mahogany can be problematic, and I'm sorry you have to deal with that hard and unfair fact, I also once owned a stubborn credenza... with a flowing perfect arc, move your cloud-like, lemon-scented cloth with the graceful grain of the wood on your credenza, becoming one with the oiled glistening panel of life recorded in those mahogany rings..." you get it.] But, Miss Sugar seems to pull up, just when you think she is going to drown the question in the reflective pool of her own life, and return to advising.
On the positive side, is the positive! Strayed is a good writer, and she uses those skills to be both entertaining and inspirational. Often in this book you will pick up some sparkling gems of wisdom. I was impressed with her good-karma emphasis on not only being a better person, but hoping for better for those around you, getting the whole team across the finish line. This would be a great book to pick up every day and read a passage, also a nice gift. Strayed does a good job narrating; I liked her voice work better here than on Wild. She still has that rock-hard edginess and no problem with dropping the F, or kicking pity-partiers off their asses--be prepared for some hard hitting--but nothing below the belt. Worthwhile listen; suggested enjoying in bits rather than one long session. (Another great pick up from this book...The Rumpus! A nice on-line magazine I intend on checking out more often, including the Miss Sugar column.)